As someone whose parents refused to pick up the $16k tab (yet paid for my brother’s wedding!), I am 100% in agreement that the expensive wedding needed to die. The old expectation that the father of the bride will pay falls apart when the bride has a bad relationship with her parents, or when her father doesn’t have a lot in savings—to say nothing of same-sex weddings!
Why burden yourself with massive debt when you’re just starting your life together?
I mean, throwing a big party is expensive and stressful if you care about your guests having a good time and getting fed. And smaller weddings mean weaker ties - no one ever forgets that they weren’t invited to someone’s wedding. We’re already so sad about not enough community, cutting off extended family from the wedding likely means weaker and weaker relationships and when your kids wish they could visit their cousins in another City it makes it harder.
I’m not arguing big is always better - it isn’t. But I also feel like plenty of millennials were going for fun and personalized and that community and family building is actually maybe more important. And well, nothing wrong about having feelings about what’s probably the fanciest dress of your life.
All the best to gen Z and I’m always hopeful about progress.
As someone whose parents refused to pick up the $16k tab (yet paid for my brother’s wedding!), I am 100% in agreement that the expensive wedding needed to die. The old expectation that the father of the bride will pay falls apart when the bride has a bad relationship with her parents, or when her father doesn’t have a lot in savings—to say nothing of same-sex weddings!
Why burden yourself with massive debt when you’re just starting your life together?
I mean, throwing a big party is expensive and stressful if you care about your guests having a good time and getting fed. And smaller weddings mean weaker ties - no one ever forgets that they weren’t invited to someone’s wedding. We’re already so sad about not enough community, cutting off extended family from the wedding likely means weaker and weaker relationships and when your kids wish they could visit their cousins in another City it makes it harder.
I’m not arguing big is always better - it isn’t. But I also feel like plenty of millennials were going for fun and personalized and that community and family building is actually maybe more important. And well, nothing wrong about having feelings about what’s probably the fanciest dress of your life.
All the best to gen Z and I’m always hopeful about progress.